Archive for October, 2012

Oh What a Difference a Decade Makes

October 22, 2012

It has been an interesting 10 years.  Ed and I are happily divorced, at least I’m happy about it.  As I have said here before, I wish that my marriage hadn’t been destroyed by substance abuse, but in the long run, it gave me a much happier ending.  I have seen and heard about some of Ed’s friends over the last several years. 

Ed’s friend Bob – is working with veteran’s in a halfway house.  He has been working hard on his recovery and even though I always think of his kids as little boys I know they are all grown now – I hope they have a good relationship with their dad, he really loves them.

Ed’s friend Bill, who I will forever think of as over sexed, was on the news the other night.  He is also a veteran with a long history of substance abuse and some problems with the legal system who is now homeless.

Ed’s friend Greg is re-married (for the 5th time) and his girls are also grown by now.  A few years ago he was investigated for slipping drugs into a woman’s drink at a bar.  She crashed her vehicle and died on the way home.  Her blood alcohol level was low and there was a high degree of suspicion but nothing came of it.

Ed’s friend TJ has divorced, done some traveling and gone back to using and his friend Troy couldn’t handle his mental illness anymore and after several failures successfully committed suicide 6 years ago. 

And then there is Ed, who dove down the rabbit hole and may never get back out of it.  I wonder about his prescription pain medication abuse and if he will ever be clean again.  I wonder about the toll it is taking on his brain, and his body.  And I wonder about the pain it brings to those who still care about him. 

Addiction is a sad and terrible disease.  It rips people apart and destroys families.  It has the power to turn people into strangers.


A Little Music

October 5, 2012

It’s funny – I love this band, we’ve even seen them a few times.  Heard this yesterday while I was doing some yardwork and it’s an earworm – so I’m compelled to share!


Warranted or Unwarranted?

October 1, 2012

It has been an interesting week.  I can go literally months hearing nothing about Ed.  This past week I have answered a call for him at my home and a man threatening him with a warrant for a bad check called my mother’s home.  In addition to all that, I found out that Ed’s dad had passed away and had to let my son know.

It was sad that he has passed but amazing that he lived as long as he did.  It’s funny, my memories of Ed’s dad are all pretty amusing.  He was a life long alcoholic and it felt like I spent my entire marriage to Ed knowing that his dad didn’t have long for this world.  I can imagine the funny stories that his kids and grandkids are telling at his wake and I know that his friends will miss him.